From the title I guess it sounds pretty harsh right?
It’s actually more real than anything else. I recently read an article in Seventeen Magazine about a girl who was raped by her boyfriend. If that wasn’t enough to creep me out I just can’t forget her saying that when she brought up it up with her friends they just didn’t LISTEN to her. This obviously worst case of bad friends so I’m just blessed I guess – to have all my friends in my life who would have really listened to me.
So today’s kind of bad friend is really someone who you really burdens you.
These things have happened/ currently happening:
· You show up for their accomplishments and they never celebrate yours with you.
· You are always calling them and they don’t bother to check in with you with any of the IM platforms available
· You always ask about things happening in their life and they never go..’and you?’
· When they need alone time they don’t notify you and then blame you for not checking on them
· They always judge/criticize you when all you really needed was someone to talk to
· They make you feel negative about life whether it’s them always complaining about life/you feeling depressed
These are basically all the things that indicate ‘bad friend’ to me. I know that some people have it worse but maybe it’s because I don’t have time to invest quality time into a friendship that won’t have a positive influence on me. I always strive to be the best friend that I can be so in return all I basically need is for someone to do that for me.
If you have a bad friend like that sooner or later they won’t show up to something that is at the top of your list of important things that you would have sacrificed your own personal plans to be there for them.
It’s really the little things for me that speaks volumes.
Obviously we can’t be where we want be at the same time but a friend always knows how to celebrate you from miles away and how you feel about certain things and what it means for your friendship to spend quality time together.
Friendships that are a burden for you will poison you whether it’s happening now or not. You can have a million facebook friends but at the end of the day only your best friends will worry about you/check up on you and call you on your birthday. Those are the ones worth keeping. And those are the friends we all appreciate.
Have you ever walked away from a friend? What was your dealbreaker?