Hi everyone!
It’s been forever and come to think of it I’m starting to
see myself as a writer because if I spend a lot of time not writing I start to
feel a bit …clogged (lack of a better word). In the past few weeks a lot has
happen and yesterday I basically wrote 5 different tests from 8 to 5 and I’ve
never felt so tired in my life. I even struggled to sleep. And sleeping was all
I could think about while I was writing!
When I feel stressed I become an extreme insomniac but when
I stop caring about something I sleep like a baby. And that feeling really
comes from a decision. Sometimes it can be a feeling to give up or a feeling of
perseverance. Whatever it is I believe that it formed in your mind and somehow
your mind convinced your heart and you were just went along with that feeling.
It’s difficult to make a decision when your mind and heart
are not in the same place. I know that it typically has to do with love – like
when you know that you’re being neglected but you continue giving love and not
getting it back (in any type of way) or when you’re unhappy at work (I can
testify to that) and you can’t afford to be at home full time or pursue a hobby
or when are at a place you’re tired of but don’t want to leave your current
friends because it terrifies you to be alone.
All of these things can be fixed provided you decide to draw
some sort of line and decide which of that line you want to be. Yes, it will be
hard. Yes, you’ll be tempted to go back. Yes, you’ll cry yourself to sleep. But
these are all symptoms of grieving that we must all go through in order to turn
a new leaf.
Here’s how your mind can convince your heart
Make a decision. Nothing can happen without a decision being
made. You are an adult and you determine where you want to be in life. If it’s
not possible for you to leave, put together a timeline plan where you will have
enough resources to make effective changes to your life.
It’s okay to feel alone. Some people are terrified of being
alone, but trust me, you are alone if the person you pump effort into can’t do
the same for you. In this alone time, take time to work on yourself, build up
your confidence and set new goals.
People Reminders. You know in a small town where I stay
people always want to remind me of who I was in high school! O M W it’s been 6
years!! Let’s move on FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!! It’s why I’ve just been avoiding
people from high school. It’s not worth it. I do not want to know where
everyone is or who they ended up marrying. You must choose to into a new
chapter in your life.
Cut Communication. This is hard but it needs to be done. My
friend (broke up with his girlfriend because she cheated on him) said that he
just wants someone to check in on him and ask how he’s doing. And I understand
that feeling. But what’s the point if it’s the person who stepped on your
heart. You’ll just never move on. Same with friends who just want to talk about
themselves and what’s going on in their lives.
Fuel your ambition. Sometimes we can be so scared to chase
our dreams. We’re so comfortable staying in our little boxes. And we can be our
own biggest critics. Your mind wants better and your heart is telling you all
about the potential problems and the possibilities of failure. You need to
reach that point where you literally tell yourself (mind to heart) that it is
possible, taking into account all the risks and knowing in your heart that when
this step is taken you will not only exist – YOU WILL LIVE!
Do you constantly also have this battle? Is yours reversed? Do you need your heart to convince your mind?
xx
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