Hi everyone!!
A couple of years ago I started coming out of my shell more
and I’d interact with a lot of people. Students of course. Took a lot of
leadership roles to learn how to handle the pressure of having a lot of people
depends on me. It was okay. I felt good to help people, to inspire and to
motivate.
Now that I work, there’s just a different kind of
interaction going on. And I’ve come to realize that people here don’t need to
be friendly. And you also have no idea how they were raised so anything can
happen any day.
I work in a place with a lot of levels so we all depend on
each other. And sometimes this makes me wish that I could just work in
isolation so that if someone is having a bad day then I don’t have to talk to
them. As harsh as that sounds.
So recently I had an encounter that opened up such a hurtful
part of my life. Worst part was – I thought I was over it until all the
emotions that I thought I had put behind me came rushing back. It’s as if the
blood was drained from face and the tears were all over my eyes like an
unscheduled rain shower.
To make it worse, the person helping me doesn’t know about
that time in my life so all these facts made him more sarcastic because he’s a
bit more established/higher level than me and has successfully gone through
this part that I struggled to climb over.
I think I just left.
Left the office to have some air in my eyes.
When I came back I built up enough courage to get the
interaction over and done with. And was just so relieved.
So these are key things that I think helped me handle it:
-As soon as I got emotional I immediately thought of options
to remain calm. For me that’s air, cool water and keeping busy with some other
task or leaving the environment. It’s important not to make a scene. Because
then you’d have to explain the whole story or it will make the office
hostile/tense.
-Remember why it’s in the past. What helped here is that I
dealt with this matter thoroughly and it helped control the tears because I’ve
cried about it endlessly before. If it gets out of control rather take an early
lunch or rest of the day off. Or bottle it and take care of it at night by
talking to someone about it.
- Do not hold a grudge. This person wasn’t in my life at the
time so he’s not aware of the level of sensitivity that this particular issue comes
with. So don’t keep them in your mind/heart. There’s just no time.
- Pull yourself together. Don’t waste the whole day! Work on
something else or from somewhere else where you can continue being productive/
remain positive. Be strong!
Can you guys relate to this topic? I think writing it in the
heat of the moment just helped me now to overcome it! You can also try to do
just that!
Xx
Love
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